May 26, 2010
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I’m not immune to retail therapy. Last week was not a great stock week, but who cares, in the compounding gains of things, it only set my retirement back a month or two, right?
I started by seeing a blue Coach wallet on Ebay this month (it turned out to be “ocean” color with medium brown interior. I didn’t buy it, hoping to find it at the Coach outlet because in person sometimes Coach things look good and sometimes they don’t. Not there. Then the last one on Ebay sold out. Not a fan of the ID holder, but it’s removable with card slots under it. Oh well.
This has roots that go back 5 years farther. When I first saw a brighter blue coach wallet with light brown interior, waiting for the Ebay price to go down to $80 and all the back stock sold out before it did. Then I avenged my loss when LV issued a limited blue Epi men’s wallet, which I used too much and wore down too fast. Note to myself, don’t use the nice wallet every day, be like a girl, like when they save certain hand bags for certain occasions.
Then I found Bluefly had on sale a blue Paul Smith wallet that I fancied. The stock was just listed in April and they already sold out! I tried looking at every fine goods online site (Barneys, Saks, Neiman Marcus, Paul Smith, Selfridges in the UK, etc.) and no one has any left.
Then I found there’s a newer Paul Smith wallet from this season… but no one had any of these either. Why is it so hard to find these wallets? This one is bright blue with orangish interior and says “Make Love, Not War). A little different from the one above. The orange is a little bright, but the outer blue was perfect.
Well, I looked everywhere and found one on some British vendor’s site. Then I found a UK coupon code that docked off 25% off the price, so total score! Even with international shipping, it’s still 25% cheaper than if I had found it in the States.
Okay, what did we learn. I have a blue wallet fetish, which some would consider uglier than ugly. Blue wallets are hard to find and sell out fast, no matter the maker. I like normal cut wallets with at least 6 card slots and just one bill slot. Also, it seems as if blue is the color this year. Ferragamo, Gucci, and Prada all made blue wallets this season, where in years past no one made anything blue (the Prada one with the navy and sky blue alternate card holder colors is pretty dope, I think only available on the Neiman Marcus site). When my mind is set, I’m a shopping hunter possessed.
Speed Dating
A friend of mine who hasn’t been on a date in years (not a bad looking guy, but too shy to break out of his comfort shell) went on an online date 10 days ago. First one was a coffee date, then they decided to meet again. Today… they are out on their fifth date. Hot damn!
During communication before and during his dating process, I was giving him some basic online pointers and let him do his thing. My tips can’t help him get the girl, but they might prevent him from creeping her out.
Today I had to say to him, “Ummm… I won’t try and say this anymore than this one time, but, have you considered slowing your roll?”
He’s just going with the flow, which is cool, but 5 times in 10 days… isn’t that a lot? Talk to her all you want, but you might want to keep the meet ups to only twice a week… you don’t want to burn it all out in the first month. Or do you? He’s not that city saavy, he doesn’t know of cool restauratns or places to go to, which is why I worry. I’m not going to bug him about it, but I thought it was something worth mentioning. Nothing too scandalous has happened, they are both moderately conservative and both looking for a long term relationship, at least from what I gather.
How fast is too fast? There’s the seeing each other too much fast, and then there’s the we-went-from-strangers-to-sex-in-two-dates fast. I’d put them in the first category, not the latter. When dating a new someone, we always want to see be with the other person, but is it healthy? We are already are talking on the phone, email, or texting everyday. Could it be that we are afraid that if we don’t see the person everyday that we fear that they’ll lose interest in us?
- Do you find that your relationships have more staying power if you limit seeing each other to once or twice a week vs. virtually everyday for the first month or two?
- Is it better to delay seeing each other (even if it’s only a day or two), so that the anticipation is greater and the actual dates are sweeter?
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wow, I kind of feel bad now since the wallet I have was bought from Target and I refuse to change it until I find it “worn out”. I’ve actually had this wallet for at least 3 years too! I do have a coach wristlet and juicy couture coin pouch, but buying brand names make me think of all the better things I can do in this world instead of self-indulgence. -_-”
i used to see a “guy friend” once a week to twice a week. My girl friends thought that was too much, but that’s because their boyfriends are 1 to 3 hours away from them. I know that I would at least want to talk to my boyfriend everyday… but I don’t know know about how much I would want to see them given the many factors that may influence the frequency of seeing them (distance, work/school schedule).
@JennY71887 -
It doesn’t matter whether something is $5 used or $1000 new. If I like it and will use it all the time, then its worth the price. I don’t buy things to impress my friends. Most of my friends could tell the diff between a LV, prada or coach.
With guys, we only have a few ways we can show some flair. I don’t wear a watch, so I can only show it thru a tie, cuff links, pen, or wallet/money clip.
Distance does make a difference in relationships. Each person is different. I’m more independent and don’t need the relationship affirmation constantly. Others might need and love it, so I can’t tell my friend he’s doing anything wrong, because he isn’t. I just wanted to give him something to think about. =)
@JennY71887 -
Sorry, meant to say “couldn’t tell” the difference between name brands.
hey i have a blue paul frank wallet i’ll trade you for something equally as cool.
it hasnerdy julius wearing glasses (i think?) warning though, it only has 2 card slots but it does have a little quarter holder! (that’s my favorite part!)
@peachmentos - haha, what are we trying to swap for? i have lots of weird stuff at home. one of my fave wallets i have is the paul frank banana wallet. it has a removable banana, just like the cover of the Velvet Underground record.
those are two of my favorite colors at the moment (purple is my all time fav!) and i think the two colors are great together. i have a ton of orange items. I LOVE IT! as for seeing someone too much? I dont play games. If i like the person and he asks me out, i’ll go out with him…unless i change my mind or something. it’s that simple. if you like someone, go out with them whether it’s once a week or seven times a week. but then again, i guess everyone plays the game…:)
@In_Paradisum - You’re like my cousin who looooves orange. I found two check pattern shirts at H&M this week, they are purple and sky blue, and sky blue with some purple? The same pattern but I bought them both. I love that combo, plus it goes good w/ Asian skin. As for things like my wallet, no matter how boring my day is, it’s the little things that can add some color to it.
i don’t think my friend has ever played the game, so hopefully this works for him! he’s earnest/honest in his pursuit.
it’s okay to play, just don’t play someone. =)
I’d prefer the fast track method. If i’m liking the girl, i’d like to see her when possible.
http://www.blackbirdballard.com/Comme_des_Garcons_SA_3100c_Colour_Leather_9464.html
Comme Des Garcons
@ktownfug - nice find! i love the color… never had a zip/coin wallet before… still on the fence about that. my paul smith blue orange wallet… love it. but i didn’t realize that it’s calf skin and super soft (not as durable?)… i guess i can only bust it out when i’m feelin’ blue.