September 8, 2009
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Be My Steady
“We are not officially official, but we are official.”
It’s such an odd curiousity about life… that thing that makes us officially couples. My friend is getting married soon and I asked her how she or some of her ex-boyfriends made it known that they were dating exclusively. The answers were all over the place. With her fiance, they never even said it, they just knew.
Basically all ways boil down to one of these:
- DTR Talk – One of you decides it next level time. Instead of just next leveling it, you have the talk to make sure that next level means next level. This can be done on a park bench, at dinner, at Starbucks, after sex, or even formally at tea time with your parents present.
- Obvious to Everyone But Us - Your friends are always whispering, but you don’t know why. That’s because you two are so in the zone that you can’t even tell that you’re a couple. Your friends are just asking the same question over and over, which is, “Are they BF/GF? Because they sure look like it.” Until you acknowledge that you are, they will keep on whispering. It’s easily settled when that loud, obnoxious friend (we all have one) practically screams across the table, “What is all this? Are you two together or what?” Then you two look at each other and it hits you… “Yeah, we are a couple.”
- No DTR Needed – I always thought this was a cool way to be official. No DTR needed because you just know. Love is in the air and both of you, at the same time, know that’s what it is.
There’s no right way or wrong way to register yourselves as an official couple. Some of us feel we have to have definition while others of us prefer to live in denial for as long as possible. The fact is, no matter how you define it, your friends can already tell what you are. But can you?
- In your current relationship or even with your exes, what were some of the ways that you found out or decided that you two were dating?
- If you had a choice, what’s your preferred way of declaring or finding out about your couplehood?
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Ranged from the guy asking to jut spending so much time together, it was obvious we were exclusive. The clincher is when both people publicly admit they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Otherwise, it might just between two people.
my bf said clicked the “in a relationship with [claritymay]” button on facebook, and ta-da, we were an official couple.
isn’t that how it works nowadays?
its always nice when both couples just know that they are mutually exclusive. cus it means that they are both on the same page with each other, and are happy just seeing each other. i like those situations best. but its nice when he takes the liberty to officially ask me to be his girl…to you know, squash any lingering doubts that may pop up.
@midori_lotus - if no one admits it… is it an affair? =)
@claritymay - i tried that about 100 times with 100 people on facebook, no luck!
@HushNowLuv - when it just flows, that’s the greatest thing. but you’re right, even if it flows, girls almost always like some formal acknowledgement. just trying to figure out if that’s because they want it official or if it’s so they can quiz us later to see if we forgot what exact date us guys said what we said. =O
As much as I’d like to downplay FB, their relationship status updates are heavily monitored amongst my friends. All the drama that ensues when a girl officially changes her status. Since I keep mine “open”, people can speculate all that they want. For me, it was just a simple nod of acknowledgement and a smile. It’s rare that I verbally declare that I’m in a relationship because I don’t feel the need to bring attention to it.
To me, a one on one conversation is ideal because there is nothing to confuse the message.
This is hilarious. *runs to change FB status* Never occurred to me that people even looked at that. I just look for college people and see if they got fat.
hint, hint, what’s your FB? Just kidding.
Let’s see, how did we find out we’re dating? Well, I tweeted about my first date with my new “BF” and I knew he was stalking my tweets. I put his picture on my various social networking profiles. Oh… and I told him on our second date that my new goal in life was to become the next Ms. Chris Walters.
Can you believe it, this was over 5 months ago, we’re still together?
So, how do I know he fell for krazy kathy? Three weeks after our first date, he introduced me to his friends as, “This is my girlfriend, Kathy.” He never acknowledged we were dating before then. It took me by surprise, to say the least, I was glowing all night. But then again, that’s why I love him, right?
@SmokeyDoke - Tweet announcing is even worse than FB! Haha. At least you were okay with him introducing you as his GF. It’s awkward when ppl say it and you’re standing there and you can see the other person isn’t in agreement.
@toefu6000 - Open huh? Open relationships? haha. That means you can be with any guy (or girl) you want!
@djcaptainzowie - Hahah on FB, that’s just an inside joke =P